Common core values, e.g. kindness, honesty. Do what you say you will do.
Compatible demeanor, e.g. optimism, humor, helpfulness, gratitude.
Solid friendship, based on mutual respect and trust. Flexibility and resilience also help.
Readiness to be emotionally open, available, and vulnerable.
Strong desire to understand and help each other grow, and to be their very best.
Willingness to make the relationship and its maintenance an important priority.
When together do I feel: Happy? Loved? Adored? Warm? Trusted? Connected?
Are affection and tenderness flowing in both directions?
Is being together a joy that energizes, not a chore that exhausts?
Are there opportunities for us to co-create and/or jointly make a positive difference?
Do I feel good about our balance of mutual contribution and commitment?
Do I feel you are interested in learning what makes me tick and supporting my goals?
Are my accommodations to your lifestyle comfortable (i.e. they don’t pinch)?
Is our balance of “solo/alone” and “joint/together” time comfortable?
Do we have good conversations and frequent laughter?
Do I feel like a wanted / integral part of your world, not an outsider waiting to be let in?
Do I want to be with you more than anything else on earth?